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I’m Your Mother, Not Your Maid


The other day I was trying to pick up things around the house and I told my 6-year old daughter that she needed to pick up her toys and some random things that belonged in her room.  She gave me a snotty look so I kindly informed her that I was her mother and not her maid.  She quickly replied, “You are our maid”.  I guess she was talking for her brothers too!

At first I was quite upset but it really made me think about the whole situation and why she would think that I was her maid.  After thinking long and hard about her statement I have come to the conclusion that I obviously don’t make her do enough around the house.  I have decided that she will have chores and that I will no longer be her maid.

If you have children that are around the same age as Taylor, what are some chores that you have them do around the house?   At what age did you implement chores, etc?  I would love any tips and suggestions that you can offer.

About Crystal

Crystal Reagan, the owner and founder of SimplyBeingMommy.com lives in Small Town, Texas with her husband and 3 children. Crystal and her website have been featured on local and national news stations including Channel 2 Houston and ABC News. She has also appeared on BetterTV as a Mommy Expert for VTech.


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    I always have my kids help me. My boy is 3 almost 4 and my daughter is almost two. My boy helps out more then my daughter, of course, but she sure tries! If my son makes a mess, he cleans it up, no questions asked! I just started doing that about 2 weeks ago, when I realized I just CANNOT do it all!!

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    My daughter is much younger but I certainly think that 6 is old enough to clean up their toys and put away clothes in their drawers. Clearing the table and setting the table (once taught how) would also be great!
    .-= Katie´s last blog ..Ultimate Cloth – Review =-.

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    I don’t have a child that young, but when my daughter was that age she had chores. Children have to be taught responsibility. Make her responsible for keeping her room tidy, take the cloths out the dryer, clear the table, mate socks.

    I make my 2 year old grandson pick up his toys and put them back in the toy box, 6 is def old enough.
    .-= Rhonda´s last blog ..I Won’t Leave My Child To Fight In A War =-.

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    OMG, i think i would have made her clean the toilets after that.

    .-= trisha´s last blog ..Bossy =-.

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    My daughter is 5 and knows for 1 she won’t get a star on her chore chart and 2 if it keeps on she will get things taken away-TV etc.(((HUGS))) It will get better
    .-= Kasandria Reasoner´s last blog ..Blog Services =-.

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    My daughter said that to me once…I made her clean toilets and more. She hasn’t said it to me again!!!
    .-= Brittany´s last blog ..Spaghetti Sauce =-.

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    Growing up, I remember cleaning my own personal space since I could remember.

    I also started doing my own laundry at 10.

    I love the title, very sassy!
    .-= Nina Say´s last blog ..What a fight! =-.

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    Mine are 18 months and 30 months old but recently I have had them help wipe down tables when I spray windex etc. as a game. They love it. I hope it will help them like to clean. 🙂
    .-= Shannon´s last blog ..Walmart Beauty Review, LIVE Closed =-.

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    My youngest daughter is 9 and she’s been setting and clearing the table for at least 2 years now. And both my girls were taught to pick up their toys when they were very little. Did they do it all the time? No way. did they do a good job all the time? No way. It was a learning process, that’s for sure.
    .-= Creative Junkie´s last blog ..Sunday regurgitation: I like to read my walls =-.

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    Oh, man, I so see this in my future. I really try to get my son involved in at least picking up after himself. But, I often find it’s just easier to do it myself. I really need to be consistent about getting him involved in helping around the house.

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    oh, Just wait until they get older. I am struggling with my teens and they have had chores forever.
    .-= Jessica @Riding with Jessica´s last blog ..My Beautiful Daughter- Photo Editing =-.

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    I think it’s great that you’re setting up some chores for her! My kiddo is only two but she puts her dirty dishes on the counter, her garbage in the can and her laundry in the basket. I’m sure things like feeding pets or putting old papers in the recycling box are suitable for a six year old.

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    That was comical!

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    My 2yo is a neat freak so I have no issues there. he knows where the trash can is and he helps pick up his toys. his favorite thing to do is wipe down surfaces, but no spray involved just hand him a a baby wipe. Last week my nephews (12 & 8) were over they got up from the table and went to play video games. I called them back in the room and asked,”do you two have your own waitress? because i know you did not leave those plates there for me.” They picked them up.
    .-= Janis @ Sneak Peak´s last blog ..My Computer Has A Boo-Boo =-.

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    Oh my 5 year old has said that before. I’m still trying to figure out what else he can do other than picking up his toys/dirty clothes, putting away his clean clothes and such.
    .-= Brandy´s last blog ..Great Holiday Gift Guides around the internet! =-.

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    Lol – that’s a daily litany in my home – I’m not your maid – even though she does quite a bit around the house.

    In any case my daughter is 13, but she’s been making her own bed since she was 5, and has had to put away her own dishes (not in the dishwasher because I’m picky the way it’s loaded), and clean her room since then too. When she was 10 she started having to clean her own bathroom too.
    .-= Tammy´s last blog ..Jones Soda Giveaway =-.

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    I have 3 kids ages 4,9 and 10. The girls have always helped clean since Like age 2!! I made it a game but my son well i am sure you seen his room and post i made on momdot! He has never been the type to help and when he does you best believe he wants something.

    Since your just starting with her it might be a little harder so start small and then work up LOL. Make it a rule that she has to pick up her own stuff and if you have to pick it up then you get to keep it. Good Luck!!

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    I saw a show on PBS that talked about hang magnetic hooks on your frig. Two hooks for each child. Hang the chores on one hook and have the move them to second hook when the job was complete. I thought that was a neat idea.
    .-= JDaniel4’s Mom´s last blog ..Free Lipton Green Tea =-.

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    This has been very interesting to read. My mom, sister and I all live together, and are all over 18. I somehow learned responsibility from a young age, and my sister has never learned it. We now struggle with how to get a 19 year old to help out. Don’t let it go that far!
    .-= Becca´s last blog ..Woot Off =-.

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    I’ve always asked for help when my kids were toddlers. I didn’t actually make them do chores until they started school. Now, at 5 and 7, my boys put their clothes away, sweep, and vacuum to earn a small allowance. They can do extra chores for an extra, but those are the things they have to do every week.

    I still find myself cleaning up after my kids though. And, don’t mention my hubby. He’s worse than the kids!

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    My two are 8 and 10 now, and I still have a hard time with chores. I try to implement chore charts but I end up wavering…sometimes its just easier to do things yourself and I basically suck at delegating lol! At this point, its mainly their rooms that are nasty…and I try to keep from tripping as I tuck them in. Once every few weeks I go nuts and gut their rooms in hopes that they will keep up and tidy up…..and the process repeats. Ah, kids.
    .-= Jenn Randomly´s last blog ..Bookmarks For Benefit! (Food Pantry Fundraiser) =-.

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    Now I can relate to that type of attitude and I have come to the same realization that I no longer ask my children to do what they are capable of doing to help to keep our home clean or presentable (I am not a SUPER clean freak, just like things in their place) LOL

    My daughter is 7 and since age 2 she has helped me with dishes, folding laundry, sweeping the floor, putting dishes away, pretty much any chore I did she would help me with … within reason.

    Now she has her own room and is a lot older so she is able to do more chores, but I haven’t been sticking to it with all going on. So I am working on incorporating chores with a chart on my wall again so that each child, including Baby K (Age 1) has a small part in cleaning up, even if they are “helping me” they are involved.
    .-= Brandy´s last blog ..Love of Reading =-.

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    I have 5 people in this house that obviously think the same thing about me too. HUGS for all of us. I think your starting her off at the perfect age. I made the sad mistake of thinking that I needed to let my children play to be kids and that I can handle it all but then I learned that they need to learn how to clean and respect the place they live in.
    Cleaning up after herself is not too much to ask. I make my daughter put away silverware except the knifes. I have her carry recycles out. Sets and cleans off the table. Helps me with grocery’s.
    She has to gather laundry and carry it to the basement then she helps me fold and put away too.
    Good luck
    .-= Night Owl Mama´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday Cranky Pants needs a New Name =-.

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    There are definitely things a 6 year old can do. It’s important for their self esteem and to get them thinking chores.
    .-= Harriet´s last blog ..Thank goodness for Friends! =-.

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    My boys are all grown up now, but when they were that age, since I was working and divorced, we all had to chip in with the chores. They were responsible for picking up their toys, making their beds, such as it was – they were not perfect, but that was OK, as long as they tried. They also had to clean up their dishes when done with dinner and they helped set the table for dinner. They even took turns taking out the garbage and my older one even liked to vacuum for me – WooHoo!! You just need to start small, and then as they grow, they learn to do more.
    .-= Lorie Shewbridge´s last blog ..Self Portrait Sunday – Outside 11/22/09 =-.

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    i make our 6 year old come home everyday and if his room isn’t picked up he cannot go out to the playground that our apartment complex has……he doesnt mess his room up half as bad anymore…..as for other things.. if he leaves Wii games, Nintendo Ds games, and/or dvd’s out of the case they are mine for a week
    .-= Tiffany Pettey´s last blog ..Alvin & Chipmunks Squeekuel giveaway =-.

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