I didn’t realize until recently just how many people suffer from depression. I’ve had a couple bouts of depression after two of my babies were born, but nothing that lasted longer than a few months and nothing that I wasn’t able to handle and manage effectively.
But, these people, some of them my friends, are suffering and there is nothing I can do to help with depression.
After doing a bit of studying on depression research, here are four ways you can be supportive of those around you that suffer from depression.
- Make sure the person suffering from depression gets an appropriate diagnosis and treatment. This may mean taking them to the doctor if you live near by.
- Offer emotional support which includes understanding, patience, affection, and encouragement.
- If you live close to the person, offer to take them on outings. A walk in the woods or an afternoon movie can work wonders for the soul.
- Encourage participation in activities that once gave pleasure, such as hobbies, sports or religious activities.
Depression is an evil condition and in most cases require medication to control and treat. If you know someone who is suffering from depression, please make sure they get treatment and make sure to show them unconditional love.
Even if they won’t admit it, they need you!
Donna says
I think I suffer from SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). But so far this winter it’s been mostly sunny and warmer than average.
Susanne says
My mom suffers but doesn’t have insurance anymore.
So she won’t do anything about it. It is very hard to
Watch and deal with. She tells us we don’t know
What we are talking about when we try to talk to
Her about it. 🙁
Crystal says
Oh no, that’s so sad. Does she qualify for any type of government assistance?
Audrey says
There are times that I have to make a decision…support them or suffer myself. Sometimes the person suffering from depression can be very harmful to your life. At those times you have to walk away. If it’s not that bad, then support, support, support 🙂
Canadian Mom Blogger says
Having suffered with depression myself, I think it’s great to be there for the person and let them know you care. You have some great suggestions here.
Kasey@AllThingsMamma says
I have suffered depression at various times in my life, but the last time I didn’t even realize that’s what was going on. I finally figured it out and go help, but it was when I was over my head and in deep. It took months to get it worked out and over a year of being miserable. I wish someone would have took me seriously instead of just blowing it off like nothing was wrong. I think they were just hoping it would go away, like I did. But, now I know what to look for and won’t ever let it get that bad again. It’s good to not ignore someone who needs help – your tips are great ones to start with!
Amy says
Well said. Little things make a big difference, and even if they don’t say so they do appreciate it!
Louise says
It’s really hard sometimes when you have depression. Doing anything is a struggle. Thanks for sharing these tips I hope they help someone in need.
Theresa says
I know several people who are near and dear to me that struggle with this issue. It’s so hard, but all you can do sometimes is just love them!
Tammy says
My cousin suffers from depression. It is hard on the whole family.
Nichol says
My depression was the worst anyone could have. Unfortunately suicidal thoughts crossed my mind even after being put on anti-depressants. A divorce, bankruptcy and more happened. Luckily, after falling to the lowest, 17 months later things changed. I was happy again and wanted to live life for my son and husband(who thankfully was by my side) even after a divorce.
Depression is horrible and I always recommend seeking help, talking, crying, doing whatever it takes.
Penelope says
I didn’t have PD with my first baby, and I’m hoping not to again, because I’ve seen people go through it, and it’s very hard on them and their family. It just hits, no warning, and it’s a struggle. Thanks for the reminder to keep our eyes open and reach out to them if we see signs.
Marcie W. says
I feel everyone gets depressed, it’s human nature. There is a point where it becomes too much though and then seeking help to function is a must. Support is always vital even if it’s just something like SAD or postpartum.
Kasandria Reasoner says
As someone who has dealt with both sides of depression I know how hard it is to deal with. Great tips. I agree on the outings. You have to get up and do something even when you don’t want to.
Kas
Maureen @ Wisconsin Mommy says
I’m not sure why there is still such a stigma around depression. Despite all of the ads for anti-depressants, people are still hesitant to talk about it openly for fear of judgement.
Felicia says
It is also very important for people to know that if they are prescribed an anti-depressant that they need to be actively participating with a counselor (most doctors will require this… but so many do not and that makes me nervous). Many anti-depressants can boost a suicidal person to have just enough energy to go through with the act. That is one reason (among many others) why counseling with the medication is a must!
Charlotte says
My mom & my aunt (her sister) always suffered from maniac depression so bad they had to be hospitalized. Now my dad is has depression so bad he hasn’t left the house probably 7 times within 3 years. It’s really bad because he doesn’t like to do anything for his self. He got like this after my mom passed away in 2001, but it’s gotten really bad the last few years. He won’t get on medication for it. I’ve had depression off and on through my years but not really bad. Depression is definitely something that can take you down in the dumps real bad. The bad thing about when I’m depressed I don’t like to be around anyone or talk to anyone. I know that’s part of it, but I just always ask God to bring me out of it.
Laurie says
Depression is so tough, and many people rarely understand it.
Tricia Nightowlmama says
I just recently concerned depression. Thankfully I never ever want to feel that way again
April Decheine says
Depression is a tough one, I know a few friends that suffer from this and I am always around to try and help.
HilLesha says
Great post! I suffered from depression when I was a lot younger. This was mostly due to being the new girl in town with social phobia. I have come a long way. However, one of my sisters sadly suffers from it and she is in her 40s. 🙁
Jennifer Mercurio says
wow, what a great post. I too have suffered from depression and PPD after both my girls. Even today I sorta feel like I’m falling back into that stage but it’s a daily goal to be the happiest I can be.
Virginia from That Bald Chick says
It’s so important to watch for the signs of depression in those that we love!
Melissa Au says
I have suffered from Depression for as long as I remember. Its definitely important to get help and surround yourself with good friends.
Tammi says
I’ve had some major lows in my life, one including watching my dad die of lung cancer at 22 and loosing my 5 year relationship with the love of my life. I never wanted to be on a “Pill” to make myself happy, I wanted to do it myself. After I met and married my husband and had my daughter last year I suffered PPD and didn’t even know it, I just kept thinking it was going to go away, finally after a lot of research I’m on a medication that has been a life savor to me, my family and my marriage! I’m no longer embarressed to be on it as well, I blog about it a lot as well. Woman (Or Men) need to know that they aren’t alone and PPD is common after pregnancy. I wish I gave in 10 yrs ago when I lost my dad I feel like I did everything the hard way!! GL to everyone!!
Zippy Sandler says
Winter is the worst time of years for people who suffer with any type of mood disorder.