My husband and I have been married for eight years and while I am by no means a marriage expert, I do think I know what it takes for a marriage to be successful.
Divorce is at an all time high and I absolutely hate it when I hear of couples that are experiencing marriage problems. Marriage is not easy, but I don’t think that divorce is always the best option. I think some couples give up so easily and if they would have only held on a little longer and tried a little harder, they would have found a way to make it work.
I’d be lying if I said that I’ve never thought of divorce but the simple fact is I made a covenant when I married my husband and I married him for a reason. Sure, things get tough, but we always find a way to make it work. In fact, it was my husband who recently explained to someone how we’ve made it work and it melted my heart. He said something along the lines of “if we both give each other 100% of ourselves, there is no chance at failure.” And he is so right. If we give 100% of ourself to our spouse and our spouse reciprocates with 100% of themselves, there is absolutely no chance that it won’t work out.
If you’ve tried everything you know to try on your own, and you really want to make your marriage work, I think doing your research and finding a reputable counselor and going through some marriage counseling is a great option and could help your marriage tremendously. Remember how you felt on your wedding day. You married your spouse for a reason. Give it your all. Your marriage deserves it.
HilLesha says
Inspiring post!
Dee says
So true. There are times when we argue and my husband will say “I love you with all my heart but right now I don’t want to be in the same room as you” It’s true, sometimes you can’t stand to be near that person and it’s probably best to go to another room for a while. When he does the little things that annoy me I stop and think. Would I miss them if he weren’t here and the answer is YES.
Kelly says
I totally agree. Just think of all the celebrities that need to hear this!
Penelope says
Awesome tips!
Sara@MommaFindings says
I love reading posts like this. Marriage is so difficult and I see so many people give up so easily. In fact, we just “broke up” with a family friend because it was constant negativity and how he thought my husband and I should divorce.
Divorce isn’t an option.
Ever.
You guys are one of those few couples I absolutely admire. 🙂
Sharon says
Great advice, marriage is definitely work.
Sarabeth says
I think you are so right! Divorce isn’t even an option in my household. We are completely committed to one another and like you said, we made a covenant that we take seriously. Marriage definitely takes work, but sadly I agree that some people give up too quickly. It’s hard to watch sometimes.
ria says
Great advice- Too often i think people think that marriage is like what you see on tv. It’s not- It takes a lot of hard work to make it work.